Recently I met a woman who had just been unceremoniously dumped by her boyfriend of 3 months. They'd been close. Cruising on the river, spending time together on weekends, sharing texts over favorite news shows, and common professions. So when a little difference of opinion ended in an abrupt hang up, she thought a nice text of support would smooth over any difficulties. He didn't call at all the next day. Or the day after. Upset, she left a voice, then email, then text msg of support. Finally, in a text since she hadn't heard from him, she told him if he wanted to break up, she understood. To this he replied, "What are you talking about?"
Since that night over a week ago, they have not actually spoken; he wouldn't take her calls. He put on on another social networking site a message that he wanted change--never stating what that change was. When she posted on her site that she had finally gotten rid of a long-lasting stress--unrelated to him, he shot her the first communique in days "are you talking about me?"
This begs the question, was he looking for a reason to get out of what she thought was a perfect relationship? Were there signs that things were going wrong that she hadn't paid attention to?
She's confused and hurt. What should be her love recovery plan? She's pressed delete on his phone number, social sites and his email. But what else can she do to stop her mind from circling the vodka-laced drain hole of what happened? What will help her stop feeling like she got backed over by a tractor driven laughing man?
I've already formed my opinion, but I'm curious to see what you think, bloggers.
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It is possible that she didn't take the time to let things build? A guy who reacts this childishly probably gave some warning signs during the "dating" period, but some are so happy to be dating they ignore the signs.
He is over her, but still watching her online activities. This dude has problems. I hope your friend forgets about dating and finds someone when she least expects it.
vodka laced drain hole. I love that. Your writing sound so different. Those MFA types have finally changed you can left their mark. What you going to do?
My suggestion: "The road was like a new dress." Zora Neal Hurston
I suggest she select a dress of some finery, find some shoes of fine construction and examine what new means in Zora's book. Rebirth, renewal, beginnings, fresh starts, choices, hope~I suggest she take all of these wonderful things along with her new shoes and move on. She'll see that life has bigger and brighter things to offer.
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My suggestion is to move on with her life and forget she ever met him. For one thing she probably never disagreed with him before and therefore never knew that he always wants to be right. If he can stop communicating over one little disagreement then he is not worth her time trying to figure out what happened. Also my suggestion for her from now on is with me always shoot from the hip so they know up front who you are and they know that you will give them your opinion regardless how they feel about it and there will be no surprises like this later on in the relationship.
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